More Women Over 50 Are Embracing “Getting It from the Back” — And They're Not Ashamed to Love It (Even If They Don’t Talk About It)

In an age where we’ve finally started celebrating wrinkles as wisdom and silver hair as sexy, one conversation still lingers behind closed doors: the evolving intimacy of women over 50.

Especially when it comes to a position that — until recently — was whispered about with either embarrassment or deflection.

We’re talking, of course, about “getting it from the back.” And no, it’s not just a bedroom euphemism. For many women, it’s about a literal shift — in posture, in perception, and in pleasure. It’s about discovering what feels good after decades of listening to what should feel good.

And here’s the surprise: it’s changing lives.

The Silent Revolution Behind Closed Doors

For years, women over 50 have lived with a quiet truth — that desire doesn’t end with menopause. In fact, for many, it blooms. Freed from fertility pressures, the male gaze, and the self-doubt of youth, a growing number of women are realizing that this phase of life can be the most sensual, the most empowered, the most them.

But that doesn’t mean it’s easy to talk about. “There’s still this idea that we’re supposed to fade away, sexually,” says Linda, 64, who didn’t rediscover intimacy until well into her sixties. “As if wanting more at my age is somehow shameful. But I’ve never felt more alive.”

Her secret? A new angle — literally. “I had chronic back pain and stiffness that made traditional intimacy really uncomfortable. I avoided it altogether for years. Then one day, my partner suggested we try something different. Gentle. Supportive. Cushions under my hips. Me on all fours, but relaxed. I was skeptical at first. But what I felt surprised me.”

Relief. Openness. And — unexpectedly — a flood of arousal.

The Backdoor to Comfort and Confidence

For many women, “getting it from the back” isn’t just about a physical position. It’s about taking control of their own comfort and pleasure in ways they were never taught to prioritize.

Physically, the posture — whether during intimacy or even in therapeutic stretches like child’s pose or supported kneeling — offers relief from pressure on the spine and hips. Emotionally, it offers something else entirely: a letting go.

“You're not on display in the same way,” says Sharon, 58. “There’s something liberating about not having to perform. You’re supported. It’s about sensation, not presentation.”

It’s a sentiment echoed by many women who are exploring intimacy on their own terms. Some have taken to journaling about it. Others have joined private online forums or women’s circles where conversations are more candid than ever before.

But publicly? The silence is deafening.

Why We Still Don’t Talk About It

Despite the rise of body positivity, aging acceptance, and open conversations about sexual wellness, older women’s pleasure still gets edited out of the mainstream.

Pop culture celebrates youthful desire. Sex columns often cater to the newlywed or the newly divorced. Even most sex education resources assume “over 50” means winding down — not turning up the heat.

So women adapt. Quietly.

They seek out the right mattress. The right lubricant. The right partner — or no partner at all. They experiment in secret. They find angles and positions that don’t aggravate their joints, that actually help their hips. And when they discover something that works — whether it’s doggy-style with yoga blocks or spooning with a wedge pillow — they don’t always shout it from the rooftops.

But maybe they should.

Because what women over 50 are discovering isn’t just about a physical position. It’s about agency. It’s about reclaiming pleasure. It’s about finally giving themselves permission to want more.

The New Midlife Intimacy

If you think this is just about sex, think again.

This is about a wider, deeper truth: That women in midlife and beyond are done settling. They want better health. Better conversations. Better relationships. And yes — better sex. And sometimes, that starts by getting it from the back.

“I laugh now,” Linda says, “because for years, I thought I was broken. That something had left me. But it turns out, I was just approaching it all wrong. I just needed the right angle.”

She pauses, grinning. “Literally and figuratively.”

Final Thoughts

It’s time we stopped treating women over 50 as invisible — especially in conversations about intimacy. Because they’re not done discovering, wanting, or enjoying. In fact, for many, the best is just beginning.

Whether it's about posture, pleasure, or perspective, “getting it from the back” is no longer a taboo. It’s a testament — to the adaptability, resilience, and desire of women who are only just starting to understand the full depth of their own bodies.

And while they may not be talking about it on daytime TV, rest assured: behind closed doors, the revolution is already underway.